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Boys, Brothers, and Saying “I Love You”: 18 Readers’ thoughts about...
Readers sent in your experiences and wisdom about #NurturanceCulture. Here are some of my favourites: 1. Nurturance is like a pot of soup that grows for both/all the more you put in. -anon 2....
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Can Non-Monogamy Foster Nurturance Culture? A Guest Post
Reader mail continues to arrive for The Opposite of Rape Culture is Nurturance Culture, and some of the mail coming in tackles topics that I wasn’t able to touch on in the original post. One reader...
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Lo opuesto a una Cultura de la Violación es una Cultura Afectiva
Lo opuesto a una cultura masculina de la violación es una cultura masculina afectiva: hombres* aumentando su capacidad de dar cuidados, y alcanzando su plenitud. El caso Ghomeshi vuelve a estar en las...
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Ten Reader Replies: “Nurturance Is…”
1. Nurturance is when you get hit by an overwhelming bout of depression that leaves you crumpled up on the hard, cold floor of the shower, unable to move, and your partner finds you there and sits on...
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Consejos para el hombre feminista
Consejos para el hombre feminista. Este artículo está escrito en honor a los hombres feministas y los rituales que hacen al salir con alguien. Eres un hombre cis, heterosexual, monógamo, y de...
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O Oposto da Cultura de Estupro é a Cultura de Acolhimento
O oposto da cultura masculina de estupro é a cultura masculina de acolhimento: homens* aumentando sua capacidade de acolher, tornando-se plenos. O julgamento Ghomeshi volta aos noticiários, trazendo o...
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So if men ask before sex, will we have solved patriarchy?
Feminist men* of the internets: I hear you asking how you can help, how you can support survivors. We’ve just heard several women be incredibly brave by not hiding from abuse they have faced, naming it...
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Consent Matters – Even if you “love his hands”
So, there’s this kind of unbelievable part of it all that I can’t wrap my head around, exemplified in a few pieces that are essentially saying, as the judge did, they continued to be involved with him,...
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Cipher: A Wholeness Project
Gwen works at the Institute, the source of all knowledge production in the world. Its great stone columns and white cutstone steps fill her imagination, and her work fills her days. Slowly her orderly,...
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We need some good news today: six more ‘Nurturance Culture’ entries
Because the beautiful responses keep coming in, and because we need some good words today: six more replies to ‘Nurturance Culture’: 1. Nurturance is the feel of your bristly beard on my forehead as I...
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Out of the Attic: dissociative disorders and social justice
Out of the Attic: dissociative disorders and social justice This is a workshop created over two years from information gathered as I was learning about my own experiences and integrating. A sandbox...
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Round up of the best Ghomeshi articles
Here’s a roundup of the best pieces on the massive public sh*t show that was the first Ghomeshi trial. The internets, in between clips of Pallas cats attacking cameras (and other cute animal videos we...
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Nurturance is about more than ‘tasks’| Dating Tips for the Feminist Man
Attunement is not a ‘task’ that can be carried out. You can provide physical care in a connected or a disconnected way. The cues that tell the limbic brain ‘I’m with you; we are connected,’ are...
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On Gaslighting
I keep having the same conversation over and over. That thing where someone undermines your perception of reality, and says you’re crazy, or denies that something is happening that is in fact...
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For Men* Who Desperately Need Autonomy
Autonomy is a paradox. Tom and I are in the car about to drop him off at a weeklong arts program working with kids on a small gulf island off the British Columbia coast. In front of us through the...
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Ten Reader Replies: “Nurturance Is…”
1. Nurturance is when you get hit by an overwhelming bout of depression that leaves you crumpled up on the hard, cold floor of the shower, unable to move, and your partner finds you there and sits on...
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For Men* Who Desperately Need Autonomy
Autonomy is a paradox. Tom and I are in the car about to drop him off at a weeklong arts program working with kids on a small gulf island off the British Columbia coast. In front of us through the...
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Ten Reader Replies: “Nurturance Is…”
1. Nurturance is when you get hit by an overwhelming bout of depression that leaves you crumpled up on the hard, cold floor of the shower, unable to move, and your partner finds you there and sits on...
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For Men* Who Desperately Need Autonomy
Autonomy is a paradox. Jordan and I are in the car about to drop him off at a weeklong arts program working with teens on a small gulf island off the British Columbia coast. In front of us through the...
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Tricks Shame and Hope Play on You and How to Catch Them
This is part two of For Men* Who Desperately Need Autonomy. (You’ll want to read that first!) My regular readers will know that I give my posts to a panel of mostly-male early readers before they go...
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